“I wish I had been brave enough to tell you…”
How would you finish that sentence? What would you say? If you had been brave enough what would you have said to someone? Someone you love? Someone you hate? Someone who means nothing to you but who touched your life and you were too embarrassed to mention it? Someone who hurt you? Someone you hurt?
If you had been brave enough, what would you have said?
“I wish I had hugged you”
“We could have a wonderful life, you know”
“I don’t know how to talk to you and know I never will, so I’ve stopped trying. But I love you deeply, even though we have nothing to talk about”
“Thank you for so much, I will never find the right words or be able to say it without crying”
“You made my day better by being polite and friendly to me when you served me my coffee. You restored my faith in humanity”
“I’ve never met someone who hurts people without conscience. You scare me and make me feel sick inside”
“I love you”
and
“I need you”
And the one I may never be brave enough to say…
…”I forgive you”
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I have some of the ones you have said but the one I am not brave enough to say is, NO. That’s the hardest one for me. I do say it sometimes-when I am brave enough. I am not ready to forgive someone who hurt me. If I forgive them does that mean what they did was all right? I haven’t figured that out yet, so I wait- I may never forgive them and some say that is wrong too.
Hiya Clair, you know I think that’s a brilliant question – whether we should forgive or not…you have made me think. I think there’s different types of forgiveness, some that help us and we need to do and some that don’t help us and we shouldn’t do. I don’t think it is as simple as you should ALWAYS forgive…I’m thinking of a post about this…will get typing and then you can see what you think…Sorry to hear someone hurt you…you can always send your little sister after them to beat them up for you 🙂
Hi Trudy, I have found that forgiveness is for the benefit of the forgiver; by not forgiving someone we carry that burden. It is not a healthy burden to carry. Just sayin’. ~ Dennis
Thanks Denis! Totally agree with you. For me my journey to be able to forgive is for me and to help me as the forgiver. I’ve started being more forgiving and it’s already making life softer and better 🙂 not always easy but will keep trying!
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